Colliding Styles of Focusing

Here is a list of the substantial stylistic differences between IRF and DF:

Inner Relationship Focusing		Domain Focusing
Something in me feels _____		Does not use “something in me feels___”
Parts work is a common way in		Parts work is unusual. . . instead 12 avenues
No clearing a space		Likes clearing a space
Rules about parts		No rules about parts
Concepts of presence		No concepts about presence
Disidentification		Dislikes distancing from self; likes self-coherence/ownership
Suggestions by listener		No or few suggestions by listener
Listener adds connector phrases		Listener does not typically use connector phrases
Situations less emphasized		Emphasizes situations and felt sense of a situation
Something in me->FS		Holding a situation and letting a felt sense form of
No domain linking		Encourages domain linking
Finds gentleness in relation to parts		Finds empathy in relation to felt sense and/or to self-in-situation
Important to get out of head		Thinking is essential in focusing
Avoids direct self questions		Values direct self questions initiated by focuser
Do not reflect classic IRF out loud prompts		Do reflect classic DF out loud prompts (questions)
Listener to the best of their ability gives focuser the listening they want		Listener to the best of their ability gives focuser the listening they want

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